I Think Muslim Rep Is Important, But I Understand Why Some Muslims Don’t Want to Read It

The other day, I was recommending a book with Muslim representation to my sister and she said she wasn’t interested. My dad overheard and was really curious as to why she wouldn’t want to read Muslim rep when she’d read anything else out there.

It was kind of hard to explain. I know why she doesn’t like it, and I don’t blame her for not liking it, but I didn’t know how to explain that.

It’s just one of those things that you just get, you know?

Sigh. Yes, I know, you don’t really know, and that’s why I’m going to try and articulate what the problem is with Muslim-rep books out there.

note: rep is short for representation | YA is Young Adult

I’m always on the lookout for new YA books with Muslim representation to read. Seeing my religion in books, being able to relate to the struggles that Muslim main characters face, it makes you feel good and excited.

It’s like reading a YA contemporary about the troubles of high school. It makes you smile to be able to relate to what these teenagers are going through.

Now, granted, you may not have gone to a normal high school (or even be in high school yet), so you don’t relate to those troubles all the way, but you get the picture.

It’s very easy to relate to and understand something you deal with everyday.

That’s how Muslim rep is to me.

Personally, I like to look for Muslim rep that’s YA, which means that 99% of the time, there’s going to be some romance element in it, which I’m totally fine with. It actually makes me more interested if there’s a romance because I’m curious to see how it will be handled.

But much to my dismay, most Muslim rep romance books start out sounding extremely promising and they give me hope that maybe the main character is not going to be like every other Muslim YA main character out there. And then I either read the book and I’m sorely disappointed, or I read a review, and I’m sorely disappointed. yes, 99% of the time, I’m disappointed either way.

Honestly, it’s almost rare that I finish a Muslim YA book and give it five stars. Actually, I haven’t given a Muslim YA book five stars since 2019, and even that one, I really need to change that rating because based on what I remember, I was being very very very generous with it. (it should have been a 3 or a 2.5)

But what exactly makes me, and others, so disappointed?

#1: When the character is Muslim in name only

Look, I’m not one to judge. You may be at a certain point in your religious journey, and it’s not my job to judge you for not “acting” Muslim, or Muslim enough.

But when a book uses Muslim in it’s blurb, when a book mentions that it’s Ramadan, I expect to see some sort of representation for that. If the character is not religious, then please, PLEASE don’t tell me that the character is Muslim or use it to market the book. It’s not a Muslim YA book anymore, it’s just a YA book.

A perfect example of this is The Lines We Cross by Randa Abdel-Fattah. When I read this book, I’d already read Abdel-Fattah’s Does My Head Look Big In This? and I was okay with the representation in that so I was curious to see what TLWC would have to offer.

In the summary for TLWC, Mina is described as “a Muslim refugee from Afghanistan”. Imagine my delight when I saw those four magical words. I instantly borrowed it, excited to see how Mina’s beliefs and culture would play a role in this book that discussed the politics of immigration and refugees in Australia.

Save for one instance in this 400 page long book, Mina’s faith is never mentioned or talked about. And even in that one moment, the topic was just brushed off and everybody continued on their merry way.

I actually checked at one point to make sure that I hadn’t just assumed that Mina was Muslim because she was a refugee from Afghanistan; that’s how much the book was lacking in that regard.

Suffice to say, I was terribly disappointed and couldn’t even acknowledge or remember how the political discussion ended.

Please do not market your book as Muslim YA when being Muslim has nothing to do with the main character besides being the source of their name. Thank you.

#2: When the character is Muslim, but changes because of a boy

This one is marginally better than the above since there is some representation with the Muslim main character, usually in the form of the main character wearing a hijab.

But you know, now that I think about it, maybe it’s not so much better.

Basically what happens in this scenario is that Muslim girl wears hijab and is actually religious. She’s not allowed to date, but she does have a crush on this white boy at school. From what I’ve read and seen, one of two cases happens here:

a. she knows she shouldn’t, but dates the boy anyway

or b. she knows she shouldn’t, but she shares some Moments with the boy anyway before she maybe finally does tell him no.

I haven’t personally read Case A but I have read reviews that have mentioned things like that happening. I’m going to use Yes No Maybe So by Becky Albertalli and Aisha Saeed as an example for this.

According to May, the main character Maya had a conversation about romance and dating with her mother and it was all nice and fine…until she and Jamie (the love interest) had a fight and she didn’t seem as convinced about it anymore. But that’s okay, at least it’s not like she brushed off her views completely right? Apparently she missed Jamie so much, it didn’t matter that she knew it was wrong/believed that it was wrong earlier, she proceeded to make out with Jamie.

I lost every shred of curiosity I had for this book when I read that. I just, I can’t, it’s so. frustrating. to hear that that actually happened. Why couldn’t she stand up for what she believed in? Why does the boy have to trump everything??

I have to say thank you to May though for suffering through this so that future people like me can be forewarned.

For Case B, I want to point out Saints and Misfits by S.K. Ali. This book wasn’t bad, and I think I enjoyed it back when I read it, but the hijab and boy aspect could have been handled better in my opinion.

There’s this one specific scene that I remember where the main character took off her hijab and curled her hair because of a boy that she had a crush on. And I don’t remember it being properly addressed, which was disappointing.

I think in the end, she did eventually stop and tell him that it can’t work between them, or something like that, but that scene is still stuck in my mind. It was also one of the first Muslim rep books that I read, so I think that’s why it disappointed me as much as it did.

#3: When Islam is used as a joke

I haven’t personally read this one either, but some of my friends have, specifically from the book More Than Just a Pretty Face by Syed M. Masood.

Apparently, some of the rules in Islam are mentioned in this book (even if they were explained in questionable ways), but they’re never actually acted upon. Which is kind of possibly hypocritical?

My friend also mentioned that there were a lot of bad jokes made by the main character about Islam. It’s also been mentioned that the portrayal of one character who started to get more religious was done terribly where he, in essence, became the bad-preachy-haram-police kind of guy.

As I said, I haven’t personally read this book, but there are so many reviews of it by Muslim reviewers on Goodreads that you can read, namely Noura, May, and Fizah‘s reviews, that explain in better detail what the problematic aspects of this book were.

I didn’t think this actually needed to be said, but apparently it does.

Please do not make jokes about religion, most especially if it’s done in a bad way. I don’t care if it’s Islam, Christianity, Judaism, or whatever, do not make insensitive jokes about it.

I don’t know about you, but just writing about all these moments where books with Muslim rep have pretty much failed makes me never want to pick up a Muslim rep book again.

If you think about the number of books out there that are like this and the number of times that you’ll have to be disappointed before you find a hidden gem, it’s really not worth bothering to try and read these books at all.

But sometimes, you do find that hidden gem which helps restore your faith in the Muslim representation out there, even if it doesn’t really deserve that.

Not all books with Muslim representation are bad. Yes, most of these better ones are in different age ranges and aren’t so romance centered as Muslim YA, but it is possible to find a good wholesome book with great Muslim rep. You just have to look beyond the boundaries of YA.

Here are 7 of my favorite books with Muslim representation:

  • Once Upon an Eid: This is actually a perfectly timed recommendation considering that Eid is coming at the end of Ramadan (Ramadan Mubarak btw!!). There are 15 wholesome stories in this anthology following different Muslim families as they celebrate Eid wherever they are in the world. It’s just so absolutely precious and hope-filled and I guarantee you, at least one of these stories will put a smile on your face.
  • Other Words for Home: A very thought-provoking book written in verse, which was a first for me as I hadn’t read a book in verse before. And I loved it. It’s so pure, so emotional, so sad, especially because you’re seeing this from the perspective of a middle school aged girl. When you think about that, it just magnifies the pain of the story.
  • Amal Unbound: This was incredibly inspirational and so real. I felt so much for Amal and her situation and I really wanted her to get everything she wanted in the end. I’m also very in love with the cultural aspects of the book and just in general seeing how life is for people like Amal and her family.
  • More to the Story: This is a Muslim middle grade retelling of Little Women, and I loved it!! It was so cute and so similar to Little Women and I loved the minor details that were changed. I highly recommend it for a fun and mostly light-hearted read!
  • Yes, I’m Hot in This: I’m not a huge fan of graphic novels, but this one has become my favorite. It’s full of little bursts of relatable funny comedy and the fact that I understand all the jokes instantly makes it so much better.
  • Written in the Stars: I’ve love Saeed’s novels so far because she always discusses real world issues with so much respect and nuance, which makes it so much better. And her author’s note where she specified the difference between arranged and forced marriages made me love the story even more. Also, I think the exploration of Pakistani culture was amazing.
  • Love From A to Z: This is my favorite Muslim YA romance. It’s honestly one of the best representations that I’ve read. I didn’t love Zaynab as a character, but the way the romance was approached and Zaynab and Adam’s relationship, it was just perfect and I loved this book so very much.

Muslim or not, I do hope you give some of these a try, and if you’ve already read them, let me know what you thought in the comments below.


In conclusion:

Basically the answer I should have given my dad when he asked “why?” was this:

Muslim representation means a lot to us because it’s our religion that’s being portrayed. Yes, we understand that there are different kinds/levels of Muslims out there, and yes we understand that the representation we’ll see may not be the same as how we practice Islam, but we still love to see it nonetheless.

However, more often than not, a book does claim to be a representation for Muslims but it’s terribly wrong or misleading. It’s even worse when something wrong happens and it’s not addressed properly or respectfully. And it hurts to be disappointed by it, especially when it’s something that is rather clear cut when it comes to Islam.

Maybe the only way to get a book that feels right is to write one ourselves, and maybe one day I’ll do that.

But in the meantime, we still shouldn’t have to be disappointed by the books that claim to be representative of us.

I started out writing this post feeling super motivated to explain what annoys me and others about Muslim rep books. And then I got to the end, and now I’m wondering if I really want to post this. You know, just one of those blogger crises where you’re not sure if what you have to say is relevant, or if you should say it at all.

If you’re reading this, then I obviously did post it, so hopefully everything will go well.

What do you think about everything I said? Is there a type of representation that you relate to that you constantly see being messed up? Have you read any of the books I recommended, and if you so, did you like them? Share your thoughts in the comments below!

22 thoughts on “I Think Muslim Rep Is Important, But I Understand Why Some Muslims Don’t Want to Read It

  1. So… I’m going to be honest and say that even though I am a Muslim, I actually thought that what all these books depicted were the norm, which is why I hated them so much, until I saw a lot of other people call them out πŸ˜… (But to be fair to myself, I live in a tiny little town with like only 7 other Muslim teenage girls, was considered to have the most “religious” family for whatever reason, and did homeschooling, so… I didn’t know lol. Not to mention that only two or three of those teenaged girls wore an actual hijab and even they took it off sometimes and were really “chatty” and everything with boys that are considered to be “family friends”, so yeah… lol)

    I’m so glad you wrote this post though!! The media and books share a different portrayal of Muslims and people often think that this is actually the true portrayal (I mean, obviously, they don’t really know because the media controls everything, but that doesn’t make it a ton better).

    More Than Just a Pretty Face was s-so… just horrible! The number of horrible jokes in it and then the fact that it was an actual Muslim author writing it. I try not to judge Muslim rep too much because authors clearly represent what they write about and religion is one of those things with multiple “shades”, but truly, that was done so messed up! (Not to mention the “preachy guy” thing – I felt personally insulted. The one time he told his mom and sister about how hijab is actually important, didn’t even force them on it or anything, and I just HATED the way his sister later related the incident. But anyways) I’m glad that you shared this with everyone else.

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  2. You are 100% right on on this. Why is there no ibadah in any of these Muslim books.? Why is everyone just a cultural Muslim and no one even prays? It could be that I’m a convert and have such a passion for Islam? I got so frustrated that I am writing my own manuscript with a full on tahujjud loving boy. IA ! For now I do write a few short stories about converts or people who actually worship and pray on my blog, for those who get tired of the usual non-practicing Muslim protagonist in novels.

    https://sagasofsabr.wordpress.com

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    1. That’s amazing!! Can you imagine ever seeing a young adult book with someone praying tahajjud? I’d never believe it until I had the book in my hands. I’m so glad to hear that you’re doing it though and insha Allah you’ll finish and publish it ❀

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  3. This is a very interesting arguement. I’m not Muslim, but I understand where you and your sister are coming from. When I find aspects of myself being represented, I am both drawn to and away from the book. I’m always excited to see myself on the page, but I dread how it will turn out even more!
    Thankfully, disibility rep isn’t use as a selling point half as much as other minorities, but I think there’s a long way to go for it to be anywhere near satisfactory. Most aren’t even #ownvoices even though the term was coined by a disabled author. I cannot forget how angry I was when in “Aru Shah and the End of Time”, Chokshi pretty much spliced an ableist jokes on every other page, implying at multiple points that one would automatically expect a disabled child to be a “coward” (her words, not mine). I had to DNF that book before I would scream.
    Finding good Muslim rep must be frustrating. Considering the political climate, it should be even more important to depict Islam properly. There’s so much misinformation out there. And while I would think (as a non-Muslim) that non-religious rep would be very good, I agree that selling it as a “Muslim novel” is plain silly. Is a novel about a non-religious Christian considered a “Christian” book? No! In fact, many books featuring religious Christians aren’t even sold as “Christian” because…gasp…..the character’s religion is not always the focal point of the plot! Shock! It’s so aggravating that the publishing industry thinks “Oh, you’re part of religion so-and-so? Guess that is all there is to you, your story, your personality”. πŸ™„

    Also, Love From A to Z is the best, I worship it. Best book of all time.

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    1. It’s like a curse, you’re always drawn to reading the representation even though 99% of the time, you’re doomed to be disappointed.
      There’s a long way to go for most minority representations before they become satisfactory tbh. Oh wow, that’s really a bit much, it’s very much actually, and I’m sorry that you had to go through that. It’s even worse when it’s said in a joking manner.
      Yes exactly, with all the misinformation and bad stereotypes out there, it’s even more important that Muslim rep books do the representation justice. I’m not saying that every Muslim rep book has to address Islamaphobia or the issues that come with wearing the hijab etc, but if it starts talking about it, it should be dealt with correctly. I’m totally fine with a Muslim rep book following a normal teen’s life with none of the heavy conversations, so long as the fact that they’re Muslim is still included in the simplest of ways (them praying or just going to the masjid (mosque) or just simply being conscious of the fact that they’re Muslim).
      And thank you, that’s exactly it!! Lol. Being Muslim is a huge part of my life, but I still have my own personality, my own likes and dislikes, and it’s something I hope we get to see with Muslim rep in the future.

      I’m glad you love it so much! It really was awesome ❀

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  4. Thanks for sharing your perspective on this!! I’m always curious about how Muslims feeling about seeing other Muslim Rep in YA and Adult! I’m personally Christian, but I don’t read Christian fiction because it usually comes in really heavy handed and it’s honestly just annoying at that point. Like stop preaching to the choir. But I do think it sounds like there could be better Muslim Rep! Thanks for the recommendations, I’m going to check them out!

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    1. I’m glad I helped explain some things for you! Lol, it’s never good to go to either extreme of being very preachy or being nonexistent. It’s important that there’s a balance, but not all books have that sadly.
      I hope you enjoy ❀

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  5. Thank you for writing this post. I feel so much more informed going into reading Muslim rep books. I feel like sometimes the #ownvoices movement pushes reading diversely so much that they forget to question what kind of representation is present in the book community and whether or not the prominent tropes for different marginalizations are harmful or helpful. This was extremely eye opening. ❀

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  6. This is a really interesting discussion! I honestly think that a lot of YA authors, in particular, don’t like to write about characters having a faith because of some very close-minded reviews I’ve seen where readers mark a book down for being ‘too religious’, which is ridiculous. Plenty of people who are religious read books about people who aren’t without judgement, it should work both ways.

    Thank you for your recommendations. Islam is something I’m keen to read more about, and learn more about, especially because the news here in the UK has often been unkind.

    Have you read Sofia Khan is Not Obliged? It’s an adult rom-com, but it has Muslim rep written by a Muslim author, as does S.A Chakraborty’s Daevabad Trilogy. I also really enjoyed G. Willow Wilson’s memoir, The Butterfly Mosque, where she talks about her journey converting to Islam.

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    1. Thank you so much for reading, Jess! I can understand why YA authors shy away from it, but if you’re going to market a book as having representation for a certain faith, there is an expectation that there will be discussions or mentions about said faith, so that’s where Muslim rep disappoints me. And I can almost understand the “too religious” comments, but only if the book is very verypreachy and it wasn’t expected which is usually not the case. And yeah, I agree, it should work both ways.

      No problem, I hope you enjoy reading them! Let me know what you thought if you try any πŸ™‚

      I actually read it a few weeks ago, and I’m not sure how I feel about it exactly lol. Like, it had a decent representation for the most part (I’m a little iffy about it, but it wasn’t completely bad and at least it was actually a part of the story), but I didn’t really like Sofia much as a character and just the way the story was written wasn’t my taste. I haven’t read the Daevabad Trilogy or The Butterfly Mosque though, so I’ll definitely check those out! Thank you for the recommendations ❀

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  7. Hey Rukky πŸ™‚
    Can you believe who’s commenting! I can’t believe it myself πŸ˜…

    Anyway, I had to say that you formulated my thoughts into this post so well! Honestly, at this point when I see Muslim-rep, I’m torn between running for the hills or giving it a chance. And when I do give it a chance, I’m sorely disappointed 😦

    Some exceptions were Love From A to Z and Aisha at Last (which was kinda disappointing at the end as well but majority was great)

    Thank you for this awesome post. It was definitely needed!

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    1. Well well well!! Look who’s back. Lol, it’s so good to hear from you again ❀

      I’m glad I was able to capture the frustrations with Muslim rep accurately! I was kind of afraid that people wouldn’t relate to it, or that I’m just being very picky with what I’m annoyed by lol.

      Yes, Love From A to Z was really great, and I was also disappointed by something at the end of Ayesha At Last. Have we talked about it? Maybe? I don’t remember

      Of course, I’m so glad you could relate πŸ’–

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  8. You gave me a lot to think about, Rukky. I can’t really formulate a proper response right now, but I wanted to write something besides “Great post!”.
    Did you manage to explain to your dad why your sister didn’t want it? And if you read the book before and could tell her if the representation was genuine or not, was the representation still the reason she didn’t want to read it?

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    1. Lol, I hope it’s a good kind of thinking that I’ve inspired. Thank you ✨❀
      Yeah, I kind of did. I just tried to explain the issues and I probably did a terrible job at it compared to this post, but I think he did get the idea in the end. And yes, actually, even if I said the representation was fine, she didn’t still want to read it just because it was Muslim rep. Eventually she did try one and liked it, so maybe she’s warming up to the idea πŸ™‚

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  9. It was nice to kind of learn about this. I haven’t read a whole lot of Muslim rep books, but I remember this one called “Amina’s Voice.” I don’t remember if it handled it well, but the book itself was good.
    I’ve heard about a couple of the books you mentioned, and I’ve been meaning to read them.
    Great post, Rukky!

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