Hey guys. Hope you’ve had a great week so far! Welcome to another Let’s Talk Bookish post! Let’s Talk Bookish is a weekly meme, created and hosted by me, where we discuss chosen topics, share our opinions, and spread the love by visiting each other’s posts.
Today’s topic is: Anxiety and Book Blogging
Tbh, I should have called it Stress and Blogging since this is more about that than about anxiety really. Stress and anxiety kind of go hand in hand though, so it’s not too bad.
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One thing I never imagined when I first started blogging was that it was going to be stressful. And that I’d be anxious about my stats and followers a lot of the time.
I consider myself a perfectionist. I’m always trying to my very best, and it annoys me so much when I get less than that. When I started blogging, my stats worried me, but it wasn’t very consuming. I only had one or two views a day, one visitor etc., so it didn’t really bother me.
Of course I still had all these grand dreams that I’d become the next biggest most famous blogger. 2018 Me loved to dream.
And then my views picked up. More and more people came. And my stats became so vital and so important that I checked them regularly through-out the day. Like several times in an hour.
This created stress. And anxiety. Because I was constantly waiting and watching and becoming a nervous worried wreck when my stats didn’t turn out how I expected. A post that I worked on and expected to have a high number barely had anything. My first discussion post, that I was so nervous but excited to post, was a flop.
It wasn’t good for me. I hadn’t started blogging to make it a race to Most Popular Blog. sure I wouldn’t mind becoming really popular but it wasn’t the reason why I started. It was about reading, and books, and about sharing my love for books with whoever read my tiny corner of the internet.
Most of this pressure and worry and anxiousness came from myself. I wanted to be good, I wanted more followers and more people coming to read my posts, but in the process, I made blogging something that stressed me out.
Nowadays, I’m more chill with myself. I don’t obsess over my stats as much, and I write what I can, when I can. And people still come and still read what I have to say. Honestly, I have higher stats now, even though my posting is irregular, than I did when I posted 5 times a week.
Blogging can be stressful. It can be anxiety-inducing. But we’ve got to learn to calm down, take a deep breath, and let it go. Today might just be a bad day. It might just be a bad month. Tomorrow may be better, or even next month. Remember why you started the blog in the first place, and focus on that. And most of all, Stop. Comparing. Yourself. To. Others. For all you know, they’ve been blogging for 5 years. You can’t expect your one-year-old blog to have similar stats to a blog that has been running for 5 years.
Remember to write because you want to, and stop checking your phone every two minutes. It doesn’t help. Trust me.
Note: Anxiety here doesn’t mean an actual diagnosis. It’s just that feeling of being anxious or nervous/worried.
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That’s it for today! What do you think? Am I the only one who used to obsessively check stats every two minutes? (it’s horrible!!) Does anxiety or stress affect the way you blog? How do you relax or calm down when it becomes super stressful? Chat with me in the comments below!